This will be my last post of 2024, so it’s a good time to take stock of the year that was for me. I think I’ll make this a regular thing at the end of each year, like Spotify does. My Theme for 2024: Transition Every book has a theme–sometimes more than one–and so it…
The Style Issue
I sometimes forget that not every post has to be introspective and existential. It’s okay to lighten things up and not be so damn serious all the time. In that spirit, I’ve been toying with writing about style and what good style means to me for a while now. I’ve been interested in style, and…
10 Things I Think I Think on November 23, 2024
Got a lot out in that last post. As I nurse a rapidly diminishing election hangover, I have some thoughts. Brevity is one of them, so let’s get right to the point for a change. 1. Unlike a lot of my friends and social media follows who are in full-scale panic mode right now, I…
You May Not Care About Politics, But Politics Cares About You
Well fuck me sideways. Our long national nightmare continues. I thought it was going to be over a few days ago, but approximately 74 million Trump loyalists–120,000 of whom are located in the right places, Wisconsin, Michigan, and Pennsylvania–disagreed with me. And so a fascist will return to Washington in a few months. Said fascist…
10 Things I Think I Think On October 24, 2024
It’s fall, my favorite time of year. There’s a nip in the air, and it’s finally jacket weather. Time to break out my favorite clothes, my best shoes, and yes, my favorite cologne. The good shit. The scents I love most that are too heavy for hot weather, but totally crush it in the cool…
Lost and Found in Paris
If you are lucky enough to have lived in Paris as a young man, then wherever you go for the rest of your life, it stays with you, for Paris is a moveable feast.— Ernest Hemingway The best of America drifts to Paris. The American in Paris is the best American. It is more fun…
10 Things I Think I Think on August 4, 2024
It’s August, the peak of my Hot Boy Summer. Last summer, I went on an Italian adventure that was accompanied by a Fool’s errand. This hot and sticky summer has been all about a return to Self and a restoration of clarity and balance in my life. Virgos need both to be happy, so this…
You Can Always Go Home Again
I just returned from a week-long vacation in New Hampshire with M. I hadn’t been home in at least two years, maybe longer. It feels strange calling New Hampshire “home” because I haven’t lived there full-time since 1992. But New Hampshire IS home to me and always will be. Why is that? Why do I…
10 Things I Think I Think on May 22, 2024
1. Wasn’t I supposed to start thinking less? Clearly this mindfulness thing is a work in progress. 2. Getting over the sudden removal of someone significant from my life is like trying to quit heroin cold turkey. The withdrawal is a serious bitch, and there’s no clear ending to it while you’re in it, so…
Field Notes From the Dating Underground
Subject is back in the dating field for the first time since April 2020, following the deterioration and somewhat comical implosion of a three and a half-year relationship, which finally ended in the fall of 2023 after several dead cat bounces. At Subject’s request, Researcher is recording Subject’s observations, reflections, and experiences as he re-enters…