It’s August, the peak of my Hot Boy Summer. Last summer, I went on an Italian adventure that was accompanied by a Fool’s errand. This hot and sticky summer has been all about a return to Self and a restoration of clarity and balance in my life. Virgos need both to be happy, so this…
Category: Life
You Can Always Go Home Again
I just returned from a week-long vacation in New Hampshire with M. I hadn’t been home in at least two years, maybe longer. It feels strange calling New Hampshire “home” because I haven’t lived there full-time since 1992. But New Hampshire IS home to me and always will be. Why is that? Why do I…
10 Things I Think I Think on May 22, 2024
1. Wasn’t I supposed to start thinking less? Clearly this mindfulness thing is a work in progress. 2. Getting over the sudden removal of someone significant from my life is like trying to quit heroin cold turkey. The withdrawal is a serious bitch, and there’s no clear ending to it while you’re in it, so…
Field Notes From the Dating Underground
Subject is back in the dating field for the first time since April 2020, following the deterioration and somewhat comical implosion of a three and a half-year relationship, which finally ended in the fall of 2023 after several dead cat bounces. At Subject’s request, Researcher is recording Subject’s observations, reflections, and experiences as he re-enters…
F-F-F-Foolin’
“The fool knows after he’s suffered.”— Hesiod “Never tell a fool that he is a fool. All you’ll have is an angry fool.” — Talmud I think it’s a beautiful thing that we have one day each year that’s dedicated to fools because fools don’t get their due in this world. We’ve all played the…
10 Things I Think I Think
Man, are some of these posts dense or what? Long-winded. Starchy. Reading them is like trying to chase a pound of spaghetti with a loaf of garlic bread and a potato. Maybe I should start using subheadings like I do with my legal briefs. Anyhoo, I’d like to add a little levity and brevity to…
Choose Your Own Adventure
When I was 12 years old, I was in this enrichment program with five of my classmates where we were able to study anything we wanted, anything that came into our minds that interested us. It was totally free-wheeling. One day, at someone’s suggestion, we took a field trip to a computer programming facility, the…
I’m With Cupid
Ah yes, it’s that time of year again. Valentine’s Day! In thinking about my first single Valentine’s Day in four years, a sixteen-year old (!) post from my old blog, which I’ve reposted below, immediately came to mind. I wrote it in 2008 when I was 39 years old, single, frustrated, and a year away…
A Simple Prop to Occupy My Time
There’s an R.E.M. song called The One I Love that I never liked because it’s simple, repetitive, and boring. It starts off as a love song, a dedication to a former lover: This one goes out to the one I loveThis one goes out to the one I’ve left behind But in the next line…
My Creed
Back when I was still a practicing Catholic, I was really into the Apostles. I had many questions about them. Who were these guys? Where did they come from? How were they chosen? Why were they chosen? Why did Jesus decide to give these particular men a rose on ‘A Very Special Episode of The…