It’s August, the peak of my Hot Boy Summer. Last summer, I went on an Italian adventure that was accompanied by a Fool’s errand. This hot and sticky summer has been all about a return to Self and a restoration of clarity and balance in my life. Virgos need both to be happy, so this…
You Can Always Go Home Again
I just returned from a week-long vacation in New Hampshire with M. I hadn’t been home in at least two years, maybe longer. It feels strange calling New Hampshire “home” because I haven’t lived there full-time since 1992. But New Hampshire IS home to me and always will be. Why is that? Why do I…
10 Things I Think I Think on May 22, 2024
1. Wasn’t I supposed to start thinking less? Clearly this mindfulness thing is a work in progress. 2. Getting over the sudden removal of someone significant from my life is like trying to quit heroin cold turkey. The withdrawal is a serious bitch, and there’s no clear ending to it while you’re in it, so…
Field Notes From the Dating Underground
Subject is back in the dating field for the first time since April 2020, following the deterioration and somewhat comical implosion of a three and a half-year relationship, which finally ended in the fall of 2023 after several dead cat bounces. At Subject’s request, Researcher is recording Subject’s observations, reflections, and experiences as he re-enters…
10 Things I Think I Think On April 27, 2024
Spring is upon us, and oh, how the mind flourishes this time of year, with all those treebuds opening, flowers blooming, people out and about with fewer clothes on, and longer, warmer days lighting our way to another endless summer! Moods are brighter, my friends! Smiles abound. A long, shitty winter of my discontent is…
F-F-F-Foolin’
“The fool knows after he’s suffered.”— Hesiod “Never tell a fool that he is a fool. All you’ll have is an angry fool.” — Talmud I think it’s a beautiful thing that we have one day each year that’s dedicated to fools because fools don’t get their due in this world. We’ve all played the…
10 Things I Think I Think
Man, are some of these posts dense or what? Long-winded. Starchy. Reading them is like trying to chase a pound of spaghetti with a loaf of garlic bread and a potato. Maybe I should start using subheadings like I do with my legal briefs. Anyhoo, I’d like to add a little levity and brevity to…
The Unreliable Narrator
Every reader begins a story in good faith, suspending disbelief and accepting the narrator’s portrayal of events at face value. The reader’s understanding is limited to what the narrator chooses to disclose and the narrator’s subjective feelings about the story’s characters and their encounters. There’s no reason for the reader to doubt what the narrator…
Choose Your Own Adventure
When I was 12 years old, I was in this enrichment program with five of my classmates where we were able to study anything we wanted, anything that came into our minds that interested us. It was totally free-wheeling. One day, at someone’s suggestion, we took a field trip to a computer programming facility, the…
I’m With Cupid
Ah yes, it’s that time of year again. Valentine’s Day! In thinking about my first single Valentine’s Day in four years, a sixteen-year old (!) post from my old blog, which I’ve reposted below, immediately came to mind. I wrote it in 2008 when I was 39 years old, single, frustrated, and a year away…